Feeling in love is different from one who is actually in love. Feeling in love is merely a state or condition which does not necessarily mean love in true sense. Feeling in love is a creation of the mind, maneuvered by one’s thought or desire and exaggerated by emotions. It is oftentimes mistaken as true love because it comes too strong as it is usually propelled by emotion, passion, sentiment and great expectations. If you are hooked with this feeling, recovery from heartbreak is slow and sometimes remote. Feeling in love could inspire you to build a castle woven with magical background and details of a fairy tale like love story with happy ending. What happens when reality strikes back? Can you (the creator of this magical love story) be like a professional actor or actress who leaves the set after the show, unaffected by the role he or she portrayed? I have witnessed reasonable number of persons who by choice remained to hold on to the feeling, acting as protagonists as they struggle to survive the pain brought by love struck and heartaches.
If only we can learn to accept love as a reality and not as a mere state of feeling, maybe the survival rate of love relationships would be higher. God is always the acme of our life and the true cause of happiness. They claim the love shown to us by God is not the same as to the kind of love we want to extract from our so-called “romantic” or “passionate” relationships. Is it really accurate to argue the difference of love for God and love for your partner? If love is sourced out from God, then it is the same love that you share and give to others including to your partner. Being actually in love means accepting the responsibility of commitment and sharing of each other’s life. It is not an acceptance of only those you like or you desire but it is accompanied with the duty to adopt the risks and consequential effects of the relationship. Take for example, if you pray to God for something you desire to have, your prayer is always answered by him but not exactly in the same manner you want it to be. You may never know or discover unless you listen to your heart that God has already answered your prayer only in a different way. Comparing this with your relationship to your partner, you tend to appreciate acts or conduct of your partner which are apt to your expectation. Noble acts done for the sake of love and respect that are not programmed by your expectations often times end up unnoticed and unappreciated.
Love is a reality so with the happiness or joy that it brings. If relationships fail to survive the test of endurance, reality will save you from the perils of heartbreak and depression. If romantic love ceases, reality will guide you to the truth that there is still enormous love within you…. Love for yourself, your friends, your family and most of all, love of God and love for God. Now I ask you, do you think it worthy to abandon these ordinary yet lasting forms of love in favor of your failed, ended or lost love affair? You see, if there is still love overflowing within you, the reality is - you can love all over again !
If only we can learn to accept love as a reality and not as a mere state of feeling, maybe the survival rate of love relationships would be higher. God is always the acme of our life and the true cause of happiness. They claim the love shown to us by God is not the same as to the kind of love we want to extract from our so-called “romantic” or “passionate” relationships. Is it really accurate to argue the difference of love for God and love for your partner? If love is sourced out from God, then it is the same love that you share and give to others including to your partner. Being actually in love means accepting the responsibility of commitment and sharing of each other’s life. It is not an acceptance of only those you like or you desire but it is accompanied with the duty to adopt the risks and consequential effects of the relationship. Take for example, if you pray to God for something you desire to have, your prayer is always answered by him but not exactly in the same manner you want it to be. You may never know or discover unless you listen to your heart that God has already answered your prayer only in a different way. Comparing this with your relationship to your partner, you tend to appreciate acts or conduct of your partner which are apt to your expectation. Noble acts done for the sake of love and respect that are not programmed by your expectations often times end up unnoticed and unappreciated.
Love is a reality so with the happiness or joy that it brings. If relationships fail to survive the test of endurance, reality will save you from the perils of heartbreak and depression. If romantic love ceases, reality will guide you to the truth that there is still enormous love within you…. Love for yourself, your friends, your family and most of all, love of God and love for God. Now I ask you, do you think it worthy to abandon these ordinary yet lasting forms of love in favor of your failed, ended or lost love affair? You see, if there is still love overflowing within you, the reality is - you can love all over again !
